Lady Gaga has never been one to shy away from the tough topics, and she got seriously intimate and real this past week when she was interviewed by Oprah during the kickoff event of her wellness tour, 2020 Vision: Your Life In Focus.
Gaga, who is now sporting shocking pink hair, cut short her own vacation to join Oprah and open up about mental health.
The pop star, who first rose to fame with her wild pop music and fashion, explained her new perspective: “The most shocking thing I can possibly do is be completely vulnerable and honest with you about my life, what I’ve been through, the struggles that I’ve seen that I have also been a part of, and share that with the world so that I can help other people who are suffering.”
Gaga opened up about her mental health struggles
In conversation with Oprah, Lady Gaga confessed to having suffered a psychotic break in the past due to PTSD that stepped from a serious trauma she experienced at the age of 19.
She was starkly honest about what that felt like: “This part of the brain where you stay centered and you don’t disassociate, right? It slammed down… It’s very difficult to describe what it feels like other than that you first are completely tingling from head to toe and then you go numb, but what is essentially happening is that the brain goes, ‘That’s enough. I don’t want to think about this anymore. I don’t want to feel this anymore.’ Boom. You break from reality as we know it.”
Gaga shared her experiences in an effort to destigmatize mental health struggles and to encourage those who are suffering to seek medical treatment.
Where her PTSD came from
She gave a birds-eye view into how she experiences PTSD and how she mistook her chronic illness, fibromyalgia, which afflicts her with frequent, agonizing physical pain for a symptom of that trauma.
Gaga told Oprah, “I was raped repeatedly when I was 19 years old, and I also developed PTSD as a result of being raped and not processing that trauma.” She explained, “I did not have a therapist, I did not have a psychiatrist, I did not have a doctor help me through it. All of a sudden, I started to experience this incredible, intense pain throughout my entire body that mimicked, actually, the illness that I felt after I was raped.”
How she handles it all
Lady Gaga says she wouldn’t be where she is today without truly addressing the pain and illness she was experiencing.
She credits, “Medicine, therapy, dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), cognitive therapy,” as well as transcendental meditation, daily exercise, and “radical acceptance.”
It’s also about accepting there’s something bigger than yourself.
“I consider myself a spiritual, religious woman. I don’t go to church every Sunday but I do pray every day,” she said.”All the things I’ve been through, I think they were supposed to happen. I was supposed to go through this.
“I think it happened because God was saying to me, ‘I’m going to show you pain, and then you’re going to help other people who are in pain because you’re going to understand it.’ Now when I see someone in pain, I can’t look away.”
Lady Gaga’s courage in sharing her story and her struggles is a powerful reminder that we can get through all kinds of suffering if only we are able to seek help. Once we get healthier and grow even stronger, we’ll be in the best position possible not just to achieve our dreams but to help others in pain as well.
Lady Gaga is on top of the world. She’s received several Oscar nominations for her role in A Star Is Born, she’s just begun a residency at Park MGM in Las Vegas, and she has countless hit albums. But, just a few years ago, she was actually bankrupt!
“I actually went bankrupt after the first extension of The Monster Ball,” she told the Financial Times, of her second worldwide concert tour, which ran from 2009 to 2011. “And it was funny because I didn’t know!”
“And I remember I called everybody and said, ‘Why is everyone saying I have no money? This is ridiculous, I have five No. 1 singles.’ And they said, ‘Well, you’re $3 million in debt.’”
Gaga is, of course, doing just fine now, she made enough money to pull herself out of debt because of “the sheer quality and popularity” of her work, the FT reported. And now, she has more than turned it all around. In 2018, Gaga had already earned $50 million as of July, Forbes reports.
But, money has never been her motivation, she told FT, “The beauty for me about being an artist is that the dream will never die, because I’m not obsessed with material things and don’t care about the money and don’t care about the attention of the public, but only the love of my fans, so for me it’s about how much more devoted, how much better an artist can I become.”
In short, she said, “it’s honestly true that money means nothing to me.”
Gaga does appreciate having money when it comes to important expenses though — and that includes her concerts, she said, “The only big things I’ve purchased are my dad’s heart valve and a Rolls-Royce for my parents, for their anniversary. Other than that, I put everything in the show.”
For Gaga, money is a reward for her hard work, but it’s not the only or most important reward. Her success, and getting to share her art, is the greatest reward, and it’s such an important lesson we can all learn from.
When it comes to mental health awareness and breaking the stigma surrounding mental illness, we’ve made major strides over the past few years. But it’s still difficult to talk about the topic openly.
Whether mental illness affects you, a loved one or a casual acquaintance, starting a discussion about mental health can be difficult, scary, and may very well put you in a vulnerable position.
But Cynthia Germanotta, Lady Gaga‘s mother, shared a few crucial tips with Mashable to help you start these difficult conversations, which are necessary for kickstarting the process of recovery.
Germanotta is the co-founder of the Born This Way Foundation, an organization that provides mental health resources, empowers youth and works to create a kinder and more accepting society.
1. Talk about it
For many families, mental health is still a taboo subject, especially when there is a significant generational gap.
After all, no other generation has been so open and so adamant about the need for emotional and mental wellness. If the people around you – whether they are your friends or family – avoid the subject, Cynthia Germanotta advises to bring it up yourself. Maybe those around you don’t realize the importance or need to discuss the subject or feel just as much – if not more – awkwardness and unease.
Starting small, like mentioning an article or one of the many celebrities opening up about the issue, can become a major catalyst in making mental health discussions and emotional wellness check-ins a part of regular family life or friend hangouts. This way, if the time ever comes that a loved one is struggling, there will be a safe environment and already established method of communication to help them through it.
2. Ask for help
Realizing that you need professional help to get through a rough patch is already a major breakthrough. However, asking for the actual help you need is often the most difficult part of your journey, especially in environment that hasn’t approached the subject.
According to Germanotta, whether we are afraid of being judged as weak, dramatic or disappointing, until we take that leap, we can never know how someone will actually react. Those fears may very well be based on internalized shame, guilt, or a direct product of the illness, rather than how our loved ones will react.
If you suspect someone around you is struggling, it’s crucial to approach the subject in a compassionate and non-confrontational way that lets your loved one know you are there to help.
Being able to recognize when someone is struggling emotionally can literally save lives — think of it like CPR. There is a bounty of online resources that can help you educate yourself on recognizing signs and symptoms.
Germanotta recommends MakeItOk.org as a trustworthy resource to provide help and even trainings like the Mental Health First Aid course.
4. Keep talking about it
Even if the first or first few people you approach with your mental health needs dismiss you, don’t give up – keep asking for help.
If your friends and immediate family fail to recognize your needs, ask a neighbor, a teacher, coach, faith leader, doctor, cousin – anybody. Someone will help.
According to Germanotta, if people around you fail to address your need for help, reach out to one of the many online, phone or text services available free of charge, like the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, The Bully Project, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, and many more. Check out this comprehensive list of hotlines and resources.
Lady Gaga has been disrupting the music and fashion scenes since she first stepped into the spotlight. From her outrageous attires to her flamboyant live performances and powerful activism, she is one of the world’s most successful contemporary artists.
While her songs have often been marked as wildly controversial, there is a sense of vulnerability in her latest albums where she reveals a softer, more emotional side of herself.
This artistic revelation is deeply rooted in her lifelong struggle with depression, insecurity, and her journey of overcoming trauma. However, her songs only scratch the surface of this surreal pop icon. This is her story.
Born with a gift for music
Lady Gaga was born Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta on March 28, 1986, in Manhattan, New York, to a Catholic family with Italian and French Canadian roots.
Growing up in a middle-class duplex, Stefani was quickly recognized as a creative child with a unique personality. At four years old, her mother introduced her to the piano so she could become a “cultured young woman.” Stefani felt like she was meant to play the piano, easily creating music by ear. At 11, she began taking weekend acting classes, opening up her imagination to a future career as an actress.
Stefani attended a private, girls-only Catholic school where she was a notedly diligent student. But her social life wasn’t quite as accomplished. Her unusual quirks and interests made her different from her peers, and the other children started bullying her over trivial things like her “big nose” and “rabbit teeth.”
Young Stefani became insecure, anxious, depressed, and knew far too well how it felt to be humiliated and isolated. She escaped into the musical world where her artistic oddities were welcomed. She learned how to sing and intently studied her father’s classic rock albums. Music was everything to Stefani.
College and a traumatic experience
During high school, Stefani immersed herself in acting and songwriting. She won every lead in the school plays, earning jealous taunts from the popular girls who called her “the Germ” and “dirty.” Regardless, Stefani remained kind to everyone and was known for her random acts of kindness.
Thanks to her father’s albums, her interest in classic rock grew, drawing creative inspiration from Queen and Elton John. She soon formed a band and they jammed out to covers of Pink Floyd and Led Zeppelin at open-mic nights.
After graduating, at age 17, she enrolled in the Collaborative Arts Project 21 — a music school at NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts. She worked as a waitress and at downtown cabaret clubs as a singer and pianist. Everything seemed to be going smoothly, but at age 19, Stefani was raped by a man 20 years older than her. For seven long years, she didn’t tell a soul and often blamed herself for the sexual assault.
By the second semester of her sophomore year, she dropped out to focus on healing herself through her music. She found the cheapest apartment in NY, using a futon as a couch, and dreamt about getting a record deal by the time she was 21.
Searching for her big break
Without college to worry about, Stefani took on three jobs to make ends meet, including a stint as a go-go dancer. She auditioned for shows all over New York in a desperate attempt to fulfill her childhood dream of becoming an actress. Performing on stage was the only time Stefani truly felt alive.
In 2001, she finally won a small role as a high-school student on an episode of The Sopranos, although it wasn’t very memorable. She got back into singing and formed a band called the Stefani Germanotta Band with some NYU friends, recording ballads underneath a liquor store. After one particular performance, Stefani was approached by talent scout Wendy Starland, who told her, “I’m about to change your life!” They rushed out of the club and Wendy called up music producer Rob Fusari.
Stefani soon met the producer in his New Jersey studio for an audition. Rob wasn’t impressed by Stefani’s physique and had low hopes for her musical abilities — until she sang while playing the piano. He was in awe and called her a “female John Lennon” with the “oddest talent.”
From then on, Stefani traveled daily to New Jersey to work with him, composing electro-pop tracks to send out to industry executives. Fusari pushed her to dress and act like a “sexy dance star,” and renamed her “Lady Gaga” — courtesy of Queen’s song “Radio Ga Ga.”
Struggling with her identity
At 20 years old, Lady Gaga was invited to join Island Def Jamafter the record label liked one of the tracks sent by Fusari. They signed her on, but they wanted a puppet, not an artist. They tried to mold her into a mainstream pop star. Whatever they told her to do, Gaga would do the opposite to feel like she was still in control. Exasperated, the label dropped her after just three months.
Depression set in. She couldn’t even talk to Fusari because she was crying so hard. But she also had a revelation: A record deal doesn’t make an artist, she could make herself an artist. So she set out again, singing at burlesque rock shows and experimenting with fashion to find her own style. She sang at the Lollapalooza music festival with performance artist Lady Starlight, who helped Gaga define her onstage persona.
At 21 years old, Fusari introduced her to producer RedOne, who later signed her to Streamline Records. Gaga was worried they wouldn’t think she was “pretty enough” to become a performer.
The record label hired her to write songs for Britney Spears, Fergie, and the Pussycat Dolls. Gaga began dieting with pills and eating one meal a day to lose weight. The label asked her to dye her hair blonde to look “more like a pop star.” Once again, she had fallen into the trap of pleasing her label over herself.
Sometimes in life you don’t always feel like a winner, but that doesn’t mean you’re not a winner.
— Lady Gaga
Flooding the mainstream
After being told by her boyfriend that she wasn’t going to make it, Gaga moved to L.A. and bought books on Andy Warhol to help her make sense of her own journey. The books became her bible and freed her to re-invent herself. She began writing dancier songs and wearing space-age disco outfits. She drew inspiration from Madonna, Cher, and drag queens.
Famous R&B artist Akon heard one of her new party tracks and insisted she sign on with his own label. She spent all of 2007 recording her debut album, The Fame. When it released the following year, it shot to number one in eight countries. The single “Poker Face” later became the world’s best-selling single of 2009. Lady Gaga had finally made it.
She began touring and performing on increasingly bigger stages. She was receiving acting roles and collaborating with other song artists. Album after album, Gaga reached number one and became the “most downloaded female act in a year” in the U.S.
The people who had dismissed her before were now pleading for free passes to her shows. She changed her number and cut them off, staying close only to her family and her creative team called Haus of Gaga — a concept inspired by Andy Warhol’s Factory.
Finding success and herself
In 2012, Gaga suffered a gruesome hip injury during her Born This Way tour. She was forced to drop out of the spotlight for six months. During that time, she reflected on her life and got to work on a new album, ARTPOP, where she aimed to make sense of the chaos in her past.
The album marked the birth of a whole new Lady Gaga. It set an artistic and individual tone that was passionate, colorful, emotional, and theatrical. She opened herself up to her fans and the world on controversial subjects like addiction, feminism, and sexuality — channeling her past traumas with powerful vocals. She also spoke up about her battle with depression and a chronic pain condition called fibromyalgia.
Gaga gave an even deeper look into her personal and family life during her own Netflix documentary. She has become a strong advocate for LGBT youth, survivors of sexual assault, and sufferers of chronic illnesses. She eventually created her own charity for mental health support, appropriately called theBorn This Way Foundation.
After years of struggling with her identity and going through a great deal to find her true creative and artistic self, Lady Gaga is finally the person she had always wanted to become. She now uses her unconventional music to deliver wholehearted messages, inviting you to hold your struggles close to your heart and be proud of who you are, to fight for what you truly believe in and not let others influence you, and to find the courage to access the parts of yourself that are truly great.
Fight and push harder for what you believe in, you’d be surprised, you are much stronger than you think.