A rude follower responded: “Says the women who can’t keep a man.”
But Berry didn’t let that rude person get her down and replied, “Who says I wanna keep the wrong man? Cuz…. I don’t.”
Of course, the commenting didn’t stop there, and another follower wrote “Geesh Halle, had some trouble with men in your life??”
Berry responded to that, “Nope, they had trouble with me.”
“No man has ever taken care of me… EVER!”
– Halle Berry
There’s no doubt that Berry has had some heartache in the public eye, from multiple divorces to a split with a partner just after they had a child. But her life is her business, no matter how famous she is – and that is an important message to us all.
Have faith in yourself
Relationships end, and they may end in a hard, sad, way – but that’s not a reflection on you or what you deserve, ever.
Toxic relationships and bad breakups happen very often, to many of us. It’s how you have faith in yourself and the promise of the future that you get past them.
While it’s sometimes true that it’s important to look at any unconscious patterns we may have if we keep ending up in one toxic relationship after the other, it’s no reason to victim-blame — ever. It’s simply part of the healing journey, and every human being is worthy of healthy love.
Offensive lineman Laurent Duvernay-Tardif missed the season that took his team to their second Super Bowl in two years to work as a doctor in a Montreal hospital.
And despite his team’s chance to win it all again on February 7, he’s at peace with his decision to help others.
He opted out due to COVID-19
Laurent Duvernay-Tardif blocked for Chiefs quarterback Patrick Mahomes when their team won the Super Bowl in 2020, but when it came time to go for a repeat, he became the first NFL player to opt out of the season due to COVID-19.
“This is one of the most difficult decisions I have had to make in my life but I must follow my convictions and do what I believe is right for me personally,” Duvernay-Tardif said on Twitter.
“That is why I have decided to take the opt-out option.”
“If I am to take risks, I will do it caring for patients.”
He was on the frontlines
Before Duvernay-Tardif was drafted by the Chiefs in the sixth round, he studied medicine at McGill University in his hometown of Montreal.
When the pandemic hit, Duvernay-Tardif rushed home from a sailing trip in the Caribbean and volunteered to pitch in however he could. He was placed in a long-term care facility where he tended to patients who didn’t have coronavirus.
Since he hadn’t studied enough to be a full-on doctor, he did work that nurses do, like drawing blood, administering medications, and even feeding and bathing patients. He only worked a few days a week, but that’s all he could manage emotionally.
“I was working there two to three days a week, and I don’t see how I could have done more,” he told The Washington Post.
“Not necessarily from a scheduling standpoint but from an emotional standpoint. Those people that are there for the past 20 years, it’s crazy. I have so much respect for them. … The amount of sacrifice is unbelievable. I feel like I’m going to be a better physician down the road because of that experience. I understood what it was all about.”
Duvernay-Tardif recalled one young patient who had been in a terrible accident and due to COVID-19 protocols hadn’t been able to see family in months. Duvernay-Tardif noticed how not seeing his loved ones was hard on the patient, so he told him: “Come on, let’s find your wife’s number.”
He used his phone to call the man’s wife on FaceTime and when the couple saw each other’s faces for the first time in two months, they cried.
“You cry, too,” Duvernay-Tardif said. “What else is there to do?”
“The definition of what it means to be a hero changed because of those people.”
At peace with his decision
Despite the inherent risks of a football season — and the infections some teams, including his own, faced — Duvernay-Tardif always agreed that a season should take place, if only to simmer down the fierce political divisions in the United States. And it’s been hard to watch as his teammates reached the pinnacle of their sport yet again.
“It was never black or white,” he said of his decision to opt-out. “As the season progressed and the stakes are higher, I do miss football even more, especially now with the playoffs. There’s more than one way to look at it, and it’s not always simple.”
Duvernay-Tardif, who lost millions in contract money during the skipped season, wouldn’t say he has no regrets, but he is at peace with his decision.
“I felt it made sense to make that decision, in order to look back at 2020—five, 10 years from now—and be proud of myself,” he told TIME. “I’ve said no to money and the NFL season in order to care for patients.”
While Duvernay-Tardif is planning a long career in the medical field, he does hope to return to his team next season.
“I feel like something was taken a little bit away from me,” he said. “I still have some football left in me. I can be a doctor for the next 40 years. I still have the passion, and that’s why I’m working out on my patio at –15°[C].”
An honourable sacrifice
You can’t help but be in awe of Duvernay-Tardif, who is not only risking his career in the NFL, but also his own health being around a hospital taking in COVID-19 patients.
His sacrifice is yet another reminder to follow health guidelines and get vaccinated so we can bring an and to this pandemic and everybody can return to doing what they love.
It’s also a poignant testament to living with integrity, according to your own values and definition of success and excellence.
Keeping Up With The Kardashians has been part the fabric of pop culture for years. Now, as it finally wraps up, Kim Kardashian West and her family are showing that they owe a lot of their success to their crew by gifting them Rolex watches as the show wrapped.
These watches, which go for around $10,000 each, were gifted to each of the 30 crew members, according to TMZ.
The end of an era
“Officially sobbing. Grateful for every single second,” shared Kardashian in a behind-the-scenes video on Instagram, saying it felt “crazy” that this epic show was ending.
The video continued:
“We just finished filming forever, like ever, ever. We’re done, we’re never filming again – isn’t that so crazy?! So we’re having a drink with the crew in my backyard, hanging out. Cheers to – I don’t know. 15 years; 20 seasons of craziness and lots of love.”
The end of the series was celebrated in a socially distanced way due to the COVID pandemic, at an outdoor garden party for the cast and crew. Of course, the champagne was still flowing.
This milestone comes in the midst of brewing divorce rumors about Kardashian and her husband Kanye West, who have reportedly been living apart for months.
Appreciate those around you
The Kardashian family has faced a lot of criticism over the years, but they have a reputation for being generous and professional, even during times of personal hardship and public scrutiny.
The family understands that success and fame are fleeting. Their longevity is due to the support of hundreds of cast, crew and supporting team members, and the family always makes sure those people feel appreciated.
After being with E! for 20 seasons, the Kardashians are moving over to Hulu – so who knows what to expect next.
It’s never acceptable to attack someone based on their physical appearance, be it their size, shape, or any other physical differences, but it’s something that happens — often with claims that “it’s for their own good.”
James Corden had a pretty busy weekend this past week, having won three Emmy awards, but he also got a lot of attention for taking time on the show he hosts, Late Late Show with James Corden, to respond to some fat-shaming comments made by Bill Maher.
“Fat shaming doesn’t need to end, it needs to make a comeback,” Maher, who is the host of Real Time with Bill Maher on HBO, opined late in August. “Shame is the first step in reform.”
Why shame is not the answer
Corden was quick to respond:
“Fat-shaming never went anywhere,” Corden said on his own TV show. “Ask literally any fat person. We are reminded of it all the time.”
Corden referred to statistics proving that fat-shaming does nothing but damage the mental health of those who are subjected to it: “It’s proven that fat-shaming only does one thing. It makes people feel ashamed and shame leads to depression, anxiety and self-destructive behavior; self-destructive behavior like overeating.”
In fact, fat-shaming has even been shown to cause weight gain in young people.
Corden wasn’t done with his powerful response
In an interview with Entertainment Tonight, Corden explained that he realized his responsibility to use his own past and his platform to speak up: “I saw something that I felt like I had experience with. Ultimately, I think I know a little more about what it’s like to be overweight than perhaps some other people do. So, to see someone talk like that made me feel like, ‘Well, this is something I feel like we should talk about.’”
Fat-shaming happens to many of us, and many of us don’t feel comfortable speaking about the issue and how it impacts us. Corden being open and honest is a help to all of us.
It was a beautiful way to stand up for everyone who doesn’t feel they can stand up for themselves, and a powerful reminder that shame is not the answer.
We’re so in love with Hollywood power couples, but sadly those glamorous relationships often end in disaster that is thrust into an even harsher spotlight. Once such a couple breaks up, everyone is hungry for all the spicy details that led to the separation.
Take, for example, Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise, who met and fell in love on the set of the movie Days of Thunder.
“He basically swept me off my feet. I fell madly, passionately in love”, she told Vanity Fair in 2002, and Tom was just as love-struck as she was.
They were clearly into each other. Nicole’s excitement for her husband was obvious. They wanted to quickly start a family so the couple adopted two children in the ’90s — their daughter Isabella and son Connor, and enjoyed being parents before they got divorced in 2001.
No one really knows the true reasons behind the breakup since both stars chose to be very discreet about their personal misunderstandings.
However, over the years Kidman has made a few comments on her marriage with Cruise, though nothing scandalous and nothing that would make her ex-husband look bad in front of his fans.
Living in the shadow
The coupled starred together in a few movies, but Nicole felt like she was pushed into Tom’s shadow during their marriage. She began to doubt herself and lived under the impression that she was there only because of her famous husband, that she didn’t have a real contribution.
“I got married very young, but it definitely wasn’t power for me – it was protection. I married for love, but being married to an extremely powerful man kept me from being sexually harassed. I would work, but I was still very much cocooned. When I came out of it at 32, 33, it’s almost like I had to grow up,” she wrote in an essay for New York Magazine.
Nicole Kidman is currently the mother of four children, but while being married to Tom Cruise she experienced two miscarriages.
Losing the first pregnancy was traumatic enough since she desperately wanted a child, but the second miscarriage devastated her as the event happened toward the end of her marriage with Cruise.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words
Breakups are often messy, and never easy. We’ve all seen some pretty bad celebrity breakups — all images captured after such an event portray a thousand emotions, and none of them are positive. There’s usually deep sadness, tears, anger and some sort of fear of abandonment in the eyes of the ex-partners.
But not for Nicole Kidman! The infamous photo taken when she left an attorney’s office after her divorce settlement with Tom Cruise is rather inspiring for anyone who has decided to put an end to their relationship.
Nicole looks like a real winner. She seems relieved and full of joy. And while these are not common feelings after a breakup, the look on her face simply tells us that she is happy with her choice.
She celebrated a new beginning
Why dwell on the past, on a relationship that has already emotionally drained you? No matter how bad it hurts, once you decide to end it, you should always look forward.
There’s no regret whatsoever on Nicole’s face. With the sun lighting up her face, she is happy that all the fuss is finally over. She looks ready to start a fresh new chapter of her life.
Never stop starting over
It wasn’t easy getting over a 10 year marriage. Nicole later admitted that she was running from her life at that time, but as an actress she had the chance to get lost in someone else’s life. It was probably ten times harder to focus on her roles, but it definitely came in handy. Starring in The Moulin Rouge and The Hours allowed Kidman to take a break from the harsh reality.
She kept her sense of humor alive too. In one interview with David Letterman Nicole said: “I can wear heels now. Let’s move on!” We’ll let you figure this one out.
It took a number of years for Nicole to get herself together and working was her biggest ally. Her hard work culminated in winning an Oscar, but while holding the golden statue and other fellow actors cheered, she still felt lonely.
Seek new love
Nicole Kidman met country singer Keith Urban in 2005 and got married in 2006. Over the years they’ve had some ups and down, just like everyone else, but they’re still together. Despite being married for over a decade, Kidman and Urban are now one of the most romantic couples in Hollywood.
The actress went through a difficult journey in becoming a parent, but in 2008 she successfully gave birth to daughter Sunday Rose in 2008, and the couple had Faith Margaret in 2011 via surrogate.
Treasure the past while moving forward
It’s been 18 years, but Nicole knows to respect her past and her present by keeping things private.
“I feel it’s almost disrespectful… to Tom and disrespectful for Keith. So I try to stay in the here and now” she told The Today Show.
Whether she’s respectful or simply trying to avoid painful memories, one thing’s for sure: publicly discussing a divorce can’t be easy. While other couples throw mud at each other after a messy breakup, Tom and Nicole kept it cool and moved on with their lives.
When it comes to talking about her past relationships, Nicole chooses to remain the elegant and classy woman we’ve always known. To us, this just seems like one of the healthiest ways to handle a breakup.
If you don’t know Lizzo already, you’re about to. There’s a very good reason AfroPunk has dubbed the future icon “the star we need right now.”
The uber-talented 31-year old singer, rapper, and classically trained flautist (no joke) is becoming more and more recognized for her unique and delicious sound. Plus— she’s a bad-ass, body positive, big, black woman who’s not afraid to spread a powerful message of empowerment and self-love.
Take, for example: her recent number one hit “Truth Hurts”, which she released nearly two years before it finally hit the top of the charts. The song is an infectious anthem about loving yourself even when others mistreat you — of never letting other people hurt your sense of self-worth.
If you’re in the mood to learn a lesson or two about fearless self-love, here are a few that Lizzo’s been sharing with us all for some time now.
Here’s how Lizzo made it to the top:
She’s not afraid to take up space
Although it was far from her first step into the professional music world, Lizzo finally made headlines back in April with her third album, Cuz I Love You.
In this and many other music videos, like “Tempo”, her infectious collab with Missy Elliot, she owns her right to occupy space, both literally and figuratively.
It started with wanting to be somebody else and actually not loving myself. Then one day I was like ‘Yo, I’m going to be in this body forever.’
Many of her videos and performances show her as the biggest person on stage (physically). She wears this like a badge of honor, with the rhymes, vocals, and moves to match.
She refuses to stop doing what she loves
This may seem obvious, but it’s an important lesson. As Bob Dylan once said in his timeless tune “Buckets of Rain”: “You do what you must do and ya do it well.”
Lizzo’s persistence over the last 8 years — and recent success — is proof of this. Although ger performances are incredibly well-rehearsed, they’re far from soulless. She and her dance team look like they’re having a blast, every time.
As some of us are fortunate enough to have figured out, when you love what you do, the self-love inherent in that fact colors how others engage with you!
That’s why Lizzo’s unstoppable energy is enough to inspire even the most deflated among us.
She came back from rock bottom
When Lizzo was 21, not only did her father pass away, but she spent the year homeless, living out of her car, and she was skinny.
“I was addicted to the gym, I didn’t eat, and I was sleeping in a dusty car,” she told Teen Vogue.
It was only after hitting rock bottom that Lizzo as we know her today started emerging.
But — she wishes it didn’t have to be like that.
“Everyone shouldn’t have to hit rock bottom to love themselves. That’s just the society we’re all unfortunately born in—the one where you have to hit your worst and hate yourself in order to love yourself? Those laws only exist because self-hate is so prevalent. Body positivity only exists because body negativity is the norm,” she said.
She’s not afraid to be vulnerable
While some might assume that a persona so outwardly exuberant and confident must be so all the time, Lizzo has discussed the reality that giving a lot of herself to strangers on a daily basis can take its toll, sharing publicly that she sees a therapist and finds it very helpful. On The Breakfast Club, she explained:
I went through such a dark age in my life that now, as a grown woman, I work really hard on self-care, self-love, and trying to be positive — and it shows.
Her practice of full disclosure even when discussing personal struggle only adds to her overall positive energy, which we can all learn from.
She takes big risks
In June, standing atop a giant cake in a wedding gown, Lizzo took the BET Awards by storm with her hit “Truth Hurts”, breaking to twerk and play the flute simultaneously—one of her trademark moves. She accomplishes with the flute something no one else does, and she knows it.
In August, she wowed crowds at the MTV VMAs when she kicked things off with a troop of twerking dancers in chaps — and a pair of giant inflatable buttocks as a backdrop to boot.
As she segued into “Good As Hell”, she reassured the audience: “You deserve to feel good as hell!”, who roared their support fr her unique brand of creative and emotional risk-taking.
It’s so hard loving yourself in a world that doesn’t love you back. Am I right? So I want to take this opportunity right now to just feel good as hell because you deserve to feel good as hell!
Talk about aging like a fine wine! It’s hard to believe “Jenny from the Block” has turned 50.
With a career spanning almost three decades, Jennifer Lopez’s private life has, at times, seemed to grab just as much attention as her professional success.
The iconic singer and actress had her share of high profile relationships, but her romance with actor Ben Affleck is the one that filled the tabloids throughout their 18-month relationship.
Bennifer: the name that changed everything
Jennifer and Ben, or “Bennifer” as the media nicknamed the couple, officially met on the set of the movie Gigli in December 2001.
Jennifer was still married then to her second husband, Cris Judd, so the boundaries were very clear. In spite of this, Ben decided to try his luck and gift her with a diamond bracelet — and just as Marilyn Monroe said, it seems that diamonds really are a girl’s best friend.
She filed for divorce soon after Ben made his intentions known. They dated for a few months and by November 2002, the couple was engaged to be married.
Affleck’s mom helped him plan the proposal. When Jennifer arrived at the house, there were rose petals everywhere. “So many candles, and vases, bouquets. And my song ‘Glad’ was playing … I walk in and I was just like overwhelmed. I wasn’t expecting it, and I was just like ‘Oh my God,’” Jennifer told ABC News.
They seemed to have it all
“Bennifer” shared the red carpet, many laughs during interviews, and exchanged expensive gifts. We will never forget those paparazzi-esque shots of Ben and Jennifer recording the iconic music video “Jenny from the Block”. They were both young, beautiful, and on the front page of every tabloid magazine.
There was too much public pressure
Even for people who are used to getting all that attention, when does “too much” become too much?
Rumors started to spread that the couple’s relationship was struggling. Add this to the stories that swirled about Ben’s supposed gambling problem and you get the perfect topic to exploit in a tabloid story.
Everyone was now focused on Bennifer’s relationship problems
In September 2003, the couple was all set to tie the knot, but the public pressure became too hard to handle. Just four days before the date, they announced that the wedding was postponed due to “excessive media attention.”
They didn’t set a second date and confirmed their split in January 2004.
Jennifer’s devastation — and recovery
“We just happened to be together at the birth of the tabloids,” Lopez told People in 2016. “It was just a lot of pressure. I think different time, different thing, who knows what could’ve happened? But there was a genuine love there.”
Back then, she was devastated. The movie she starred in with Affleck was getting plain awful reviews. Months of planning the perfect wedding had gone to waste because “Bennifer” was not a couple anymore.
Jennifer began to question her self-worth: “I lost my sense of self, questioned if I belonged in this business, thought maybe I did suck at everything. And my relationship self-destructed in front of the entire world. It was a two-year thing for me until I picked myself up again.” she told Vanity Fair.
She looked forward instead of backwards
Jennifer didn’t let either the coverage of the split or the colossal failure of her Bennifer movie legacy, Gigli, hold her back. In 2004, she began working on her new album Rebirth while also working on her solo acting career.
Their marriage ended in 2011, but Jennifer now knew how to handle a life’s challenge. So instead of feeling sorry for herself and avoid the public eye, she reinvented her career.
Everything is part of your story and your journey and is meant to be and helps you grow if you’re willing to look at it, and I’m willing to look.
Jennifer Lopez, People Magazine
Jennifer signed on as lead judge of reality show American Idol in 2011, even though others told her to quit and warned her that the decision could be the death knell to her career. It was nothing of the sort. American Idol was a breath of fresh air for Lopez, as well as a guaranteed steady gig.
She knew her worth and hoped that the show would display her actual character — not the one attributed to her by the press during and immediately after “Bennifer.”
Know you are limitless
Jennifer has now once again become the center of the spotlight with her highly publicized romance with baseball player Alex Rodriguez.
The couple became engaged in March 2019, when Rodriguez got down on bended knee with while they were on holiday in the Bahamas. Lpez calls A-Rod her “twin soul,” but they haven’t really planned a wedding yet.
While her personal life and acting career have been a constant roller coaster, Jennifer has no plan to slow down, with the much hyped Hustlers out this fall.
Through her focus and dedication to her true self and her passion for performing, Jennifer was able to move out of the shadow of the celebrity romance that made her a focus of obsessive tabloid coverage. It’s a powerful lesson for anyone trying to move on from their own breakup.
“I have worth, I have value, I belong here.”
Jennifer Lopez, MTV The Ride
All the low points and the failures helped her grow and stand up for herself; Jennifer gained strength from everything she learned. She can sing, dance, and act –- she is limitless. And so are you.
If there’s one thing Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth’s relationship can teach us, it’s the importance of honesty. Honesty with yourself, and to those around you.
Being unapologetically true to yourself can be difficult, especially when a relationship is involved. The very thought of letting your partner down might keep you from making a decision that’s right for you. Add to that the fear of being considered “selfish” by the outside world and choosing to follow your heart can prove to be a struggle.
Cyrus and Hemsworth certainly never had a simple, linear romance. After meeting in 2009 on the set of The Last Song, the couple were on-again, off-again for years. Even after first getting engaged in 2012, they called it quits, then reconciled in 2015, and eventually walked down the aisle in December 2018.
Unfortunately, come August 2019, the couple had separated, less than a year after their nuptials.
What happened? Although we may never know the full story, Cyrus has since spoken at length about embracing personal growth and learning that “change is inevitable.”
Here’s what we can learn from Miley and Liam:
First, give love a fair chance
Cyrus and Hemsworth first began their courtship when they were still teenagers — she was 17, he 19 — so it was inevitable that they would grow, both as individuals and as a couple. Unfortunately, you can’t guarantee that you’ll always drift in the same direction as your partner.
Cyrus certainly did her best, however. As she explained on Twitter, “I f***ed up and cheated in relationships when I was young, but the truth is, once Liam and I reconciled, I meant it, and I was committed. There are NO secrets to uncover here.”
Don’t ignore your differences
While the young stars clearly saw the importance of having faith, putting in the work and giving their love a chance, after a decade, they were unfortunately “not on the same page when it comes to a lot of fundamental things that make a relationship work,” a source told People.
For example, Hemsworth reportedly wanted “to settle down and have a conventional family including kids” while Cyrus was never shy about voicing her disinterest in a cookie-cutter romance. As she told Elle in 2019, “My relationship is unique […] It’s so complex, and modern, and new that I don’t think we’re in a place where people would get it.”
“I’m in a hetero relationship, but I still am very sexually attracted to women,” she added, explaining, “I made a partner decision. This is the person I feel has my back the most. I definitely don’t fit into a stereotypical wife role. I don’t even like that word.”
While merely giving up is never the answer, there is no shame in walking away from a situation in which you feel forced to compromise or change your true self in a way that simply isn’t rewarding.
Don’t fight your evolution
Despite the effort that Cyrus and Hemsworth made to find a middle ground and work past their differences, their relationship simply wasn’t meant to be eternal — and that’s okay. The time they shared was certainly not a waste.
As Cyrus declared on Twitter, “I’ve said it before and it remains true, I love Liam and always will.”
At the end of the day, the decision to part ways was not born from a place of hate, but rather from the admittance that time changes you.
“I had to make a healthy decision for myself to leave a previous life behind,” Cyrus confessed on Twitter, adding, “I am the healthiest and happiest I have been in a long time. I am proud to say, I am simply in a different place from where I was when I was younger.” She elaborated on that same principle on Instagram, writing:
Don’t fight evolution, because you will never win.
If you grow from it, it’s not really an ending
Only when you stop listening to outside voices and start paying attention to the one that matters most — your own — can you set yourself free from unfair pressure and expectations.
It’s only once you decide to be true to yourself and your evolution, no matter how difficult that may be, that you can set off on the road to finding pure happiness and total fulfilment. That, in turn, will always land you exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Bieber also has a history of getting very “real” on social media and sharing what matters when it matters, without hiding behind fame and a fortress of media protection.
Justin owns up and reveals all
In an Instagram post this week, Justin shared his own inside experience with getting so famous at such a young age, after being discovered on YouTube by Scooter Braun as a cherubic thirteen-year-old.
He explained the negative affect that the power, privilege, and pampering had on him as he grew into a young adult, eventually resulting in a very public downward spiral.
“Have [you] noticed the statistics of child stars and the outcome of their life,” he wrote. “There is an insane pressure and responsibility put on a child [whose] brain, emotions, frontal lobes (decision making) aren’t developed yet.”
In the post, Bieber shared how he found himself “…18 with no skills in the real world, with millions of dollars and access to whatever I wanted.”
Bieber’s troubled background
Justin spent his early years in Ontario, Canada. He was raised by a single, teenaged mother and busked on the streets to share his love of music.
Once he became a huge star, he never had anyone telling him no in his formative years. Even schooling was thrown to the wayside to focus on building the Bieber music empire.
He owns his mistakes
“I started doing pretty heavy drugs at 19 and abused all my relationships,” Bieber wrote. “I became resentful, disrespectful to women, and angry. I became distant to everyone who loved me, and I was hiding behind, a shell of a person that [I] had become.”
This progressed into an adulthood that was completely out of control: “By 20, I made every bad decision you could have thought of and went from one of the most loved and adored people in the world to the most ridiculed, judged, and hated person in the world.”
How his marriage changed everything
Bieber confides that he has come out on the other side of all that darkness, and credits the commitment he made to his wife, Hailey Baldwin.
“Now I am navigating the best season of my life ‘MARRIAGE’ !! Which is an amazing, crazy, new responsibility,” he wrote. “You learn patience, trust, commitment, kindness, humility, and all of the things it looks like to be a good man.”
Share your struggles
Bieber has previously posted about his mental health struggles and even why it led to him taking a break from the industry and taking better care of himself and his mental health needs. Love, commitment, and faith have helped him.
“All this to say even when the odds are against you, keep fighting,” Bieber ended his note. “Be kind today, be bold today and love people today.”
We all have our struggles, albeit not as public and on the same scale as Bieber, but we all suffer and we all sometimes need to let ourselves take a step back and reflect and take better care of ourselves.
Never be afraid to ask for help, or admit your mistakes. There’s always hope of a better tomorrow!
Anyone who watched either The O.C. or Gossip Girl, two of Josh Schwartz’s immensely popular teen dramas in 2000s, will remember the dysfunctional romances depicted in those shows. The kind of romances that are fun to watch when you’re a teenager, but don’t hold up from a mature perspective.
On The O.C, for example, Seth Cohen, played by Adam Brody, endured a rollercoaster relationship with Rachel Bilson’s Summer Roberts, which repeatedly saw him struggling to be “good enough,” putting his crush on a pedestal, and even two-timing.
Later, on Gossip Girl, Blair Waldorf, as played by Leighton Meester, manoeuvred an incredibly unhealthy romance with Ed Westwick’s Chuck Bass, which involved emotional manipulation, physical violence, and trading your girlfriend for a hotel.
This makes the fact that Adam Brody and Leighton Meester have managed to build a strong, unwavering adult marriage in real life, far away from the media and its prying eyes, all the more intriguing — and impressive.
By being the complete opposites of their on-screen characters, the actors have crafted a very mature, very healthy relationship that we can all learn from.
How they kept their relationship out of the drama:
He’s no Chuck, she’s no Summer
Adam Brody and Leighton Meester may have spent a large portion of their young lives trapped in toxic relationships on the small screen, but luckily, they didn’t allow those storylines to affect their real-life perceptions of what a partnership should be.
While Brody’s character was repeatedly left trying to suppress his geeky nature to win over a love interest he idolized to an unhealthy degree, Meester’s role had her in a romance fraught with jealousy, manipulation, and an inability to be honest with herself and her boyfriend.
Given how young and impressionable both actors were at the time, their roles could have certainly had a negative impact on their outlook on love.
Meester told Porter’s Edit magazine in 2018, being just 21 years old when she was cast on Gossip Girl meant she needed to grow up fast.
“If you don’t have the right perspective, you could definitely be confused by people being that nice to you or judging you for behaviour that’s typical of a 20, 21-year-old,” she noted. “I had to figure it out quickly and with not a completely developed mind to discern between what’s real and what’s not, who I can trust and who I can’t.”
She never let it knock her down, however, and instead used those experiences to learn, grow and better herself. She also learned from Blair’s mistakes on the show, telling Lance Bass: “I hope that young women aren’t looking at [Chuck and Blair] and thinking ‘I should model my relationships after this’ because there was some domestic violence in there.”
She even went on to credit her journey with leading her to her “soulmate” Adam Brody, who reflected on Seth’s failings in a 2019 GQ interview: “I do wonder if he’s selfish and that leading with your insecurities isn’t enough.”
Their life is not a TV show…
If there’s one thing Adam Brody and Leighton Meester are great at, it’s keeping a low profile. After initially meeting on the set of 2011’s The Oranges, they reportedly started spending a lot of time together, but weren’t confirmed to be dating until February 2013.
Even then, they didn’t share many details about their budding relationship. A year later, they took everyone by surprise when they tied the knot in a super secret wedding.
News of the nuptials weren’t even made public by the lovebirds — the big day was confirmed by unnamed sources to Us Weekly.
When the couple welcomed their first baby, Arlo Day Brody, in September 2015, it was more of the same, as they kept mum on the subject and took their time to share the sex and name of their bundle of joy.
To this day, they rarely talk about their love life publicly
When it does happen, it’s very brief, like in 2019 when Meester told The Hollywood Reporter, “He’s my best friend. I wanna work with him on everything, and I think he’s the best in everything.”
They’re also not concerned with following any traditional rulebook, as Meester revealed to Shape, saying, “I just don’t believe in balance”. Rather, they focus on doing whatever it takes. “Some days my husband makes dinner, and some days I do,” she continued. “Other days, I’m too tired, and I eat a bowl of cereal for dinner. It’s just the thing we do to make it work.”
Having shared passions outside of acting and their family, like charity work, has been another key to their success.
In 2017, for example, they teamed up with Feeding America to serve lunches to underprivileged youth at the Para Los Niños Charter School in Los Angeles.
Leaving Seth and Blair behind
In a rare joint interview, Brody revealed that they do occasionally reflect on the fact that Seth Cohen and Blair Waldorf ended up together and talk about it “once a year, randomly, on our Seth and Blair day — it’s good for a laugh,” he said.
By keeping their private lives private, sharing similar passions, and learning from the fictional characters that made them famous, Adam Brody and Leighton Meester have been able to build a grown-up, loving marriage — without the unnecessary drama that dictated their on-screen romances.