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What Happened to Britney’s Sister, Jamie Lynn? The Star Who Suddenly Disappeared

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The entire world is reexamining its treatment of Britney Spears

The documentary Framing Britney Spears has forced us to collectively reckon with how we’ve regarded Britney over the last 15 years. Mistakes have been exposed, apologies have been issued, and realizations are continuing to occur. In a way, the documentary encapsulates everything that is poisonous about mainstream media. It’s vicious, it’s relentless, and it doesn’t care about showing a semblance of respect to the parties involved. 

While much has been and will continue to be said about Britney’s conservatorship, we can’t overlook her younger sister Jamie Lynn. She’s been Britney’s rock through the whole ordeal and doesn’t get enough credit for how she herself had to endure the media’s hostility during a very vulnerable period in her life. 

The two sisters can be as different as chalk and cheese, but they’ve always stood by each other when the need arises. So let’s take a look at Jamie Lynn Spears and how she’s had to grow up under extremely toxic circumstances.

Jamie endeared herself to the public through a hit Nickelodeon show

Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images/FOX.

Jamie Lynn was born to James and Lynne Spears on April 4, 1991, in McComb, Mississippi, making her nearly ten years younger than her big sister. Due to a rather large age difference, Jamie was only a child when Britney achieved global fame with her hit single, ‘Baby One More Time.’ The entire Spears family was thrust into the spotlight overnight and had to adapt to living in the public eye — with a bonafide superstar in their midst. 

Jamie’s first acting role was a small cameo role in the 2002 film Crossroads, where she played a younger version of Britney, who starred in the film. She followed up the cameo with a two-year stint in the Nickelodeon sketch comedy show All That, where she played a variety of roles as well as herself on occasion. 

But her biggest claim to fame was undoubtedly Zoey 101. Those who watched Nickelodeon in the mid-2000s would without question recognize her as Zoey Brooks, the sweet and confident teenager who attended a stunning, out-of-the-world boarding school by the beach. 

It’s likely true that Jamie may have leveraged Britney’s celebrity to land herself minor acting roles up early on, but Zoey 101 was Jamie’s statement to the world that she was a stand-out performer in her own right. That she could inspire, excite, and entertain just as well as Britney. But there was no competition between the two siblings — Britney and Jamie co-wrote and sang the theme song of the show, ‘Follow Me.’ 

When speaking about her time on Nickelodeon and being Britney Spears’s younger sister, Jamie said that she might have chosen acting as a way to differentiate herself from her sister. Like many other teen performers, Jamie didn’t know how to process her growing stardom, even though she’d seen her sister go through the wringer over it. 

I got very insecure about a lot of things, especially in young Hollywood, and that was the time where it was very heavy with the paparazzi […] I just remember being really, really self-conscious about a lot of things during that time. 

Jamie Lynn Spears on NYLON

Yet, Jamie tried her best to be appreciative to the fans and the press, that is, before a shocking announcement threw her career off course for once and for all. 

She shocked the world with her pregnancy announcement at 16

Jamie incited a lot of controversy in the entertainment industry when she announced that she was pregnant with her first child at just 16. Jamie and her then-boyfriend Casey Aldridge confirmed the details in an interview with OK! Magazine on December 20, 2007. They became engaged in March 2008 and welcomed their daughter Maddie on June 19, 2008. 

Jamie recently claimed that she had already wrapped the last season of Zoey 101 by the time she had become pregnant. But there was hesitation on the network’s part on releasing the unaired episodes. As one can imagine, Nickelodeon had to do a lot of damage control to tackle viewer complaints. All of a sudden, people just couldn’t believe how a “good girl” persona could go off the tracks and have a baby at such a young age. Jamie said that she was already in distress over dealing with her parents and Casey, so the media storm only exacerbated the situation and worsened her mental wellbeing. 

I was judged for something that probably most everyone does. I was young. I was in love. I was like every other teenager, except I had this last name. And I made a decision that is forever my decision.

Jamie Lynn Spears on Glamour

Instead of remaining in L.A., a paparazzi hotspot that was actively threatening her and Maddie’s safety, Jamie decided to pack her bags and move the family to Mississipi. She said that she bought a house “in the middle of nowhere,” put up huge fences, and decided that she was going to stay put in Mississipi. She didn’t want to deal with the media blitz, she didn’t want to deal with the judgment, she didn’t want to deal with fame in general, so she disappeared from the public eye very much “on purpose.” 

Jamie said that she didn’t want her young age to be a detriment to motherhood, so she put her full attention to raising Maddie. Jamie and Casey separated in March 2009, at which Jamie moved yet again, this time to Nashville, Tennessee. This is where her love for country music blossomed. Jamie went on to learn more about songwriting and singing and even released her debut country album, The Journey,  in May 2014. 

Living in Nashville, Jamie met businessman Jamie Watson, who she went on to marry on March 14, 2014. The two had their baby girl, Ivey, on April 11, 2018. Looking back at her teenage pregnancy fiasco, Jamie maintains that she has no regrets. She’s also very grateful that she was able to move away and go into hiding, so to speak — a choice that wasn’t available to her older sister. 

Seeing [Britney], I knew how far it could go. I’ve never wanted to be put under that kind of scrutiny. I just wanted to get away from it as much as I could, to just go away and be a mom and figure out what I wanted, and to earn a sense of respect back for myself.

Jamie Lynn Spears on Glamour

Jamie doesn’t want “the past” to be repeated in regard to her sister’s conservatorship 

Over the past year or so, a lot of misinformation, opinion, and judgment has been leveled at the Spears’ family with regard to Britney’s legal guardianship. Jamie has understandably been quiet about the whole situation, given the legal implications. But after the documentary aired, Jamie did post an Instagram story with the quote, “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”

She added her own commentary to the quote, writing, “Dear media, try not to repeat the mistakes of your past. Look where that got us. Do better.” It’s anyone’s guess as to what Jamie was referring to or which “mistakes” she is speaking about, but it’s a safe bet that she wants to be careful when discussing Britney’s career or health. 

Looking back, people forget that both sisters were fighting very similar battles at the same time but under different circumstances. In many ways, Britney’s mental health crisis may have deflected attention from Jamie’s own teen pregnancy turmoil. Jamie learned that her sister was suffering from this overwhelming deluge of attention and criticism, and realizing that she couldn’t help her sister effectively at the time, she just moved away and approached motherhood with a clean slate. 

What’s commendable is that the sisters are still very close and have posted numerous birthday tributes to one another on Instagram. Britney, whether intentionally or unintentionally, has always taught Jamie about the illusions of fame and how it can completely unravel a person from the seams. Yet, at the same time, Jamie has also done her best to carve her own path within the industry. Zoey 101 may be behind her, but her country ambitions are on the up and up. 

Seeing the way [Britney] handled it so honestly, to me, that was so brave. She was open with me about it. She taught me to protect myself. And I think that I learned how to be strong, but also keep it honest, and it was 100% helpful in every single way. 

Jamie Lynn Spears on NYLON

Don’t let the regrets bring you down

The past is always the past, and it has a tendency to weigh down on us. Jamie Lynn Spears will always reflect on her teens with a sense of trauma and frustration, but she did the best she could, even though her family was falling apart and the press was feeding them to the dogs daily. But she knew that she had to act fast if she wanted her daughter to be safe and protected. 

Media has been circling their family like vultures for well over 20 years now, so it only makes sense that Jamie would have had to toughen to survive their attacks. She looked up to her sister, and her sister definitely didn’t disappoint. 

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Why We Need To Talk About Demi Lovato’s Powerful Revelations In Her Docuseries

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Hollywood is often notorious for giving glossy spins to not so glossy stories. While reality can be full of grit and harsh truths, a Hollywood version benefits from the ever-seductive editing process. That being said, when it comes to Demi Lovato’s new YouTube docuseries it’s no holds barred raw truth after raw truth. The emotional rollercoaster Demi takes the viewer on is an insight into that fateful July 23, 2018 day when her struggles with addiction came to a head and the superstar overdosed. With the intention of wanting to set the record straight, Lovato sits down and reveals all of her past demons for the world to see.

There is no sugar coating the issues in Dancing With The Devil, Season 1 Episodes 1 & 2. The talented songstress reveals the factors and intense pressure she was under, especially with regards to her mental health, leading up to the overdose.

Growing up, Demi Lovato experienced addiction in her family

Demi’s father struggled with addiction, mental health issues and was abusive towards her mother. His death weighs heavily on Demi’s heart and mind despite the estranged nature of their relationship for years prior. Demi felt a certain hypocrisy for representing mental health publicly and being there for others in a way that she was unwilling to be present for her father. This emotional turmoil contributed to Demi’s struggles even though she was clearly just trying to do the right thing for her wellbeing.

Lovato speaks on her past struggles with eating disorders fueled by low self-esteem beginning at a young age. As a child, Demi would participate in beauty pageants that are centered primarily on looks and talent. Demi pinpoints her issues with food beginning as early as even back then. Fast forward to just months before her life-threatening overdose, Demi’s environment was so controlled that it is understandable why she wanted to rebel. People were actively policing her food to try and prevent a relapse of an eating disorder. There was constant emphasis on her sobriety and intense pressure for her to stay on the straight and narrow at all times.

Demi hid her addiction from the people around her

Then during a photoshoot, Demi recalls questioning whether or not sobriety really was the right choice for her. She recognized that she was no longer happy and then after bumping into her former drug dealer Demi went “shopping” for drugs. She mixed meth, cocaine, molly, and finally began dabbling with heroin as well. Lovato thought that she had it under control until she realized during a trip to Bali that she was physically dependent on the drugs. When Demi returned from her trip, she continued with the drug use and developed a specific addiction to crack and heroin.

Lovato hid her drug use so well from everyone that no one knew she was using. Then after a night partying with friends, on July 23, 2018, at around 5:30 a.m., Demi said that she was going to bed when what she really did was call her drug dealer. Not only did her dealer supply her with the dangerous illicit substances that would lead to her overdose, but Demi reveals that he took advantage of her, and finally left her for dead.

The next morning Demi had a doctor’s appointment scheduled and her assistant came to wake her up. After a few attempts of knocking on her bedroom door and receiving no answer, her assistant decided to go in and that’s when she found Lovato unresponsive. Demi’s assistant immediately called security, and then went on to call 911 who dispatched an ambulance to Lovato’s home.

She experienced frightening symptoms

The overdose was so life-threatening that Demi experienced three strokes, a heart attack, brain damage, blind spots in vision, pneumonia and multiple organ failure. When she woke up, she was temporarily legally blind. Her sister who was sitting at her bedside recalls that Demi couldn’t even see her and did not know in the moment who she was.

The incredible insight that Demi has acquired since that dire summer 2018 day has led her to believe that she was looking for spiritual growth in all of the wrong places. Lovato’s candor in sharing her story is nothing short of courageous. She tells it like is without packaging the details in a pretty shiny bow and for that she stands apart from the rest.

Labels can have a huge impact on those who are the recipients of those titles. In Demi’s case, she was labelled an “addict” publicly and often criticized for her struggles. People were cruel in poking fun at her overdose and some even encouraged her to resume using drugs again. However, Demi demonstrated her resilience and rightfully put them in their place. Even in the face of backlash, Lovato is an advocate for those who have been through similar trials and tribulations to what she has. In sharing her story, Demi clearly doesn’t let the labels define her but she is committed to living a full life.

It is a miracle that Demi is alive and a blessing that she is sharing her very personal story in this intimate way. Dancing With The Devil is worth the watch not only because it dispels certain myths about addiction but because it enlightens us to its realities in the process.

Have the courage to be vulnerable

Despite the attempts of others to bring Lovato down, she continues to share her story. Stories of survival such as Demi’s are nothing short of divine intervention and sharing the tales of such close calls can quite literally save the lives of others who can relate. One person’s story of recovery can inspire millions to do the same.

Together we heal collectively through sharing our truths. Demi Lovato may be a celebrity, but in releasing her new docuseries she is now a bona fide hero as well. Share your story and heal yourself but in the process, you may just save someone else’s life. Not all heroes wear capes, some just really know how to rock a microphone.

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Halle Berry’s Response To Troll Is An Inspiration To Anyone Who’s Gone Through A Breakup

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Breaking up is hard to do, especially when it keeps happening in the public eye. Recently, when Halle Berry was shaded by a fan on Instagram, she had the perfect response.

A heated exchange

It all started when Berry posted an empowering message geared toward women.

A rude follower responded: “Says the women who can’t keep a man.”

But Berry didn’t let that rude person get her down and replied, “Who says I wanna keep the wrong man? Cuz…. I don’t.”

Great point!

Amazing Clapback

Of course, the commenting didn’t stop there, and another follower wrote “Geesh Halle, had some trouble with men in your life??”

Berry responded to that, “Nope, they had trouble with me.”

“No man has ever taken care of me… EVER!”

– Halle Berry

There’s no doubt that Berry has had some heartache in the public eye, from multiple divorces to a split with a partner just after they had a child. But her life is her business, no matter how famous she is – and that is an important message to us all.

Have faith in yourself

Relationships end, and they may end in a hard, sad, way – but that’s not a reflection on you or what you deserve, ever.

Toxic relationships and bad breakups happen very often, to many of us. It’s how you have faith in yourself and the promise of the future that you get past them.

While it’s sometimes true that it’s important to look at any unconscious patterns we may have if we keep ending up in one toxic relationship after the other, it’s no reason to victim-blame — ever. It’s simply part of the healing journey, and every human being is worthy of healthy love.

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Who Is Drake’s Mother And Why Does He Take Every Opportunity To Celebrate Her

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In just a few short years, Drake has cemented his status as one of the biggest celebrities in the world. 

He’s more than a mere artist. He’s undoubtedly one of Canada’s national treasures and one of hip-hop’s most beloved and buzzworthy figures. He draws in attention wherever he goes, whenever he speaks — his voice and reach are unsurmountable in many ways. 

Over the years, the rapper has maintained the narrative that he’s “started from the bottom” and has reached the upper echelons of fame and success through nothing but sheer hard work. While most of his fans adore him for being so earnest about his origins, many of his detractors peddle a different theory and propose that not everything about his life story is as authentic as it seems. 

Seeing how Drake croons on and on about his humble beginnings, it’s worth examining what indeed occurred in his childhood, the impact his parents had had on his passions and character, and how his upbringing drives his relationship with his son Adonis. 

Drake and his mom were “very poor” but she still encouraged him to follow his dreams

(Photo by George Pimentel/WireImage)

Aubrey ‘Drake’ Graham was born on October 24, 1986, in Toronto, Ontario, to Sandi and Dennis Graham. His African-American father originated from a musical family in Memphis, Tennessee, and had been a drummer for artist Jerry Lee Lewis at one point. He moved to Toronto in the eighties and had met Sandi Sher at a nightclub called Club Bluenote. Sandi, a Canadian woman of Ashkenazi Jewish background, had worked as an English teacher and occasionally as a florist at the time. 

Unfortunately, Dennis and Sandi’s marriage didn’t last for a long time; the two divorced when Drake was just five, and Dennis proceed to move back to Tennessee. As a young Black Jewish boy, Drake felt out of place and misunderstood for most of his childhood. 

Sandi tried her best to raise and support Drake as a single mother, but she faced several struggles financially and physically. For most of his young life, Drake grew up on Weston Road in Toronto, which he claims, was “not the nicest area in the world.” Sandi suffered from osteoporosis and joint pain, which left her isolated in her bedroom for most of Drake’s childhood. Her poor health drove her to smoke heavily and take an exorbitant amount of pain meds. 

When Drake was in the sixth grade, his mother moved him to a wealthier part of town, Forest Hill, so they didn’t live in an “area that could create trouble for her son.” But Drake maintains that the family was still “broke” and had to rent the basement and the first floor of a house. 

Everybody thinks I went to some private school and my family was rich. Maybe it’s my fault. Maybe I haven’t talked enough about it, but I didn’t grow up happy. I wasn’t in a happy home. My mother was very sick. We were very poor, like broke. 

Drake to Complex

Despite their tumultuous life, Sandi still managed to throw Drake a Bar Mitzvah and encouraged him to follow his dreams. She never forced him to live by a certain code or implement anything in particular, but she still wanted the best for him. For a brief period, Drake went to a Jewish day school, but nobody “understood” him or his identity as a young Black Jewish boy. Despite those challenges, Drake always felt uplifted by his mother, who celebrated him at every instance. Therefore, the rapper does his best to honour his mother on every occasion and show her a world of gratitude for everything she’s done for him.

My mother is an incredible woman. She’s always just told me, ‘You know, whatever you want to do, whatever you end up being, I’ll always love you. I’ll always support you.’

Drake to the Hollywood Reporter 

Drake claims to have had a deadbeat father, but his dad says otherwise

(Photo by Thaddaeus McAdams/WireImage)

While Drake’s mother was bedridden and “deteriorating,” Drake’s father was in and out of jail. Dennis had had two stints in prison while Drake was growing up, leading him to miss massive chunks of his son’s childhood and adolescence. As a result, Drake believes he didn’t “have a father” growing up. 

However, Dennis himself claimed that he brought Drake down to Memphis every year, “from the time he was a baby in the car seat to the time he was 17.” Additionally, it was through Dennis’s influence that Drake was able to nurture his passion for music. In fact, Drake recalled that Dennis’s prison roommate, who rapped to Drake over the phone, sparked his love for hip-hop. 

Dennis claimed that Drake was using the “absentee-father” narrative to “sell records,” but Drake refused those accusations, saying on his Instagram, “My father will say anything to anyone that’s willing to listen to him.”

Though both Drake and his father’s testimonies don’t align in this case, it’s safe to say that Drake still didn’t grow up in the most stable household. Yet, at the same time, Drake still appreciates his father. 

My father is an incredible man—charming, talented, and stylish—and I’m sort of living the dream he had for himself. But his actions served as that reverse role model for me. There are a lot of things that I don’t ever want to do. I don’t want to miss years of my child’s life. I don’t want to put a woman on a roller-coaster ride. 

Drake on GQ

Though it’s hard to confirm whose account is accurate, it doesn’t really matter because both dad and son have a wonderful relationship at the moment. Yes, they have disagreements and still hurt each other now and then, but they still hang out with each other when they can. Drake’s posted many photo albums over the years in which Dennis and Drake are seen mingling or drinking together. 

Coming from a broken home, Drake wants to “share memories” with his son Adonis

Credit: Drake Instagram/Snapchat

When Drake’s son Adonis was first born, the rapper was accused of “hiding” his son from the world. The media and the public didn’t know too much about Adonis’s first years, that is, until Drake chose to share his photos for the first time last year. 

Since then, Drake hasn’t shied away from letting the whole world into his private life with Adonis. From dropping his son off on his first day of school to celebrating his third birthday, Drake is routinely shown showering his son with love on social media. A lot of the affection can be attributed to how he wants to build a different sort of relationship with his son than the one he shared with his own family. 

I want to be able to go places with my son and share memories with my son. I don’t want to feel like just because of a life choice I made to be, you know, a ‘celebrity’ that I got to make everybody live under this blanket. I just wanted to free myself of that. 

Drake on Young Money Radio with Lil Wayne

Though he’s not romantically involved with Adonis’ mother, Sophie Brussaux, Drake tries his best to co-parent with her. He knows all too well about what it’s like for the kid when the parents are constantly fighting or in different locations. Drake and Sophie didn’t expect to be in this particular position, but they have to make it work for Adonis’ sake. 

I was really hard on my parents for giving me sort of a childhood that I had to wrap my mind around as I grew. Multiple times I sort of suggested that they could have done a better job at co-parenting, sticking together, not being so divided. 

Drake on LeBron James’ The Shop

At the same time, Drake is appreciative of the values his parents had instilled in him. His mother taught him about surviving and holding hope for a better future, while his father told him about honing his craft and live out his dreams to the best of his ability. He said that he’s “all of the things I’ve learned from and through my father and the incredible things I’ve learned through my mother about patience, about unconditional love..”

Your struggles will drive you to be a better person

Drake’s upbringing could have spelled disaster for the rest of his life, yet he barrelled through and emerged victoriously on the other side.  We’ll all have regrets about our upbringing and the conditions under which we were raised. We might feel that our parents could have done a better job and that we will forever remain scarred by their faults.

Yet, at the same time, it’s the same struggles that instill a drive in us that pushes us towards self-development and emotional fulfillment. Drake knew that it’s no use holding resentment for parents that tried to raise him the best given their circumstances. All he can do is set up a life for his son that’s vastly different from this own. Sometimes it’s best to lick our wounds and approach our future with some optimism despite the cards we’ve been dealt. 

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Chiefs Player Who Abandoned His Team Is The Real Winner Of Super Bowl LV

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Offensive lineman Laurent Duvernay-Tardif missed the season that took his team to their second Super Bowl in two years to work as a doctor in a Montreal hospital.

And despite his team’s chance to win it all again on February 7, he’s at peace with his decision to help others.

He opted out due to COVID-19

Laurent Duvernay-Tardif blocked for Chiefs quarterback Patrick Mahomes when their team won the Super Bowl in 2020, but when it came time to go for a repeat, he became the first NFL player to opt out of the season due to COVID-19.

“This is one of the most difficult decisions I have had to make in my life but I must follow my convictions and do what I believe is right for me personally,” Duvernay-Tardif said on Twitter.

“That is why I have decided to take the opt-out option.”

“If I am to take risks, I will do it caring for patients.”

He was on the frontlines

Before Duvernay-Tardif was drafted by the Chiefs in the sixth round, he studied medicine at McGill University in his hometown of Montreal.

When the pandemic hit, Duvernay-Tardif rushed home from a sailing trip in the Caribbean and volunteered to pitch in however he could. He was placed in a long-term care facility where he tended to patients who didn’t have coronavirus.

Since he hadn’t studied enough to be a full-on doctor, he did work that nurses do, like drawing blood, administering medications, and even feeding and bathing patients. He only worked a few days a week, but that’s all he could manage emotionally.

“I was working there two to three days a week, and I don’t see how I could have done more,” he told The Washington Post.

“Not necessarily from a scheduling standpoint but from an emotional standpoint. Those people that are there for the past 20 years, it’s crazy. I have so much respect for them. … The amount of sacrifice is unbelievable. I feel like I’m going to be a better physician down the road because of that experience. I understood what it was all about.”

Duvernay-Tardif recalled one young patient who had been in a terrible accident and due to COVID-19 protocols hadn’t been able to see family in months. Duvernay-Tardif noticed how not seeing his loved ones was hard on the patient, so he told him: “Come on, let’s find your wife’s number.”

He used his phone to call the man’s wife on FaceTime and when the couple saw each other’s faces for the first time in two months, they cried.

“You cry, too,” Duvernay-Tardif said. “What else is there to do?”

“The definition of what it means to be a hero changed because of those people.”

Laurent Duvernay-Tardif

At peace with his decision

Despite the inherent risks of a football season — and the infections some teams, including his own, faced — Duvernay-Tardif always agreed that a season should take place, if only to simmer down the fierce political divisions in the United States. And it’s been hard to watch as his teammates reached the pinnacle of their sport yet again.

“It was never black or white,” he said of his decision to opt-out. “As the season progressed and the stakes are higher, I do miss football even more, especially now with the playoffs. There’s more than one way to look at it, and it’s not always simple.”

Duvernay-Tardif, who lost millions in contract money during the skipped season, wouldn’t say he has no regrets, but he is at peace with his decision.

“I felt it made sense to make that decision, in order to look back at 2020—five, 10 years from now—and be proud of myself,” he told TIME. “I’ve said no to money and the NFL season in order to care for patients.”

While Duvernay-Tardif is planning a long career in the medical field, he does hope to return to his team next season.

“I feel like something was taken a little bit away from me,” he said. “I still have some football left in me. I can be a doctor for the next 40 years. I still have the passion, and that’s why I’m working out on my patio at –15°[C].”

An honourable sacrifice

You can’t help but be in awe of Duvernay-Tardif, who is not only risking his career in the NFL, but also his own health being around a hospital taking in COVID-19 patients.

His sacrifice is yet another reminder to follow health guidelines and get vaccinated so we can bring an and to this pandemic and everybody can return to doing what they love.

It’s also a poignant testament to living with integrity, according to your own values and definition of success and excellence.

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Patrick Mahomes Only Has Eyes For One Woman–His High School Sweetheart

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In just a few short years, Patrick Mahomes of the Kansas City Chiefs has become the toast of the NFL. 

At just 25, he has already built a reputation as one of the best, most dynamic, and skillful players in the league. He led the Chiefs to an enormous victory against the San Francisco 49ers in Super Bowl LIV and is set to lead the charge yet again this year against Tampa Bay Buccaneers. With two Super Bowl appearances in as many years, the odds are certainly in favor of the young Texan athlete. 

Patrick’s rapid emergence to the top of the football pyramid has generated a high level of interest in his personal life. There’s no doubt that such a beloved athlete would have a swarm of gorgeous ladies lining up at the door, but Patrick doesn’t need to bother with any of their advances. 

The man only has eyes for one woman. So as we prepare to see him throw exhilarating touchdown passes on the field, let’s take a closer look at the woman keeping him sane amidst the chaos and the fame. 

Patrick’s fiancée Brittany is a former athlete and runs her own fitness empire 

Patrick Mahomes girlfriend Brittany Matthews
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Normally you’d expect athletes to chase after supermodels or influencers, but Patrick has kept it real by sticking with his high school sweetheart through and through. Patrick and Brittany Matthews started seeing each other as students at Whitehouse High School in Whitehouse, Texas. 

But not long after, the two went off to different colleges to pursue their respective fields. Brittany went off to play college soccer and study kinesiology at the University of Texas in Tyler, whereas Patrick, who graduated from high school a year later, moved to Lubbock, Texas, to play college football at Texas Tech University. The two towns were 440 miles away, which means the young couple had to give their all to make long-distance work. 

In April 2017, Patrick was drafted by the Kansas City Chiefs and moved to Missouri. At the same time, Brittany graduated from college and moved to Iceland to play soccer professionally at a club called UMF Afturelding/Fram. She called this move “an amazing experience to go do what I love.” 

She remained in Iceland for about six months — she won the league with the team and then moved to Kansas City to be with her beau. While playing in Iceland, Brittany realized her passion wasn’t in sport but fitness. 

Patrick works his a** off and is at the facility from 6 a.m. to 6 p.m. every day. There’s no excuse for me to be sitting on my butt at home doing nothing or not making a difference in this world or not being successful. I feel like we’re a team. 

Brittany Matthews on LifeandStyleMag

In 2019, Brittany founded her fitness company Brittany Lynne Fitness, where she offers training exercises, fitness regimens, and workout gear and merchandise. Her site’s About page reads that playing sports professionally has taught her all about “strength training, wellness, maintaining peak fitness.” So it’s safe to say that Patrick and Brittany bond over a number of passions, not least of which is fitness and athletics. 

Patrick blocked off a section of the Arrowhead stadium to propose to Brittany

(Photo by Robin Alam/Icon Sportswire)

Having held on to their relationship through the long distances and their early careers, it was only time before Patrick sealed the deal with a ring on Brittany’s finger. He did so after receiving his Super Bowl championship ring in a ceremony. According to Brittany, a section of the Arrowhead Stadium at their home ground in Kansas City had been closed off and decked out in roses. A sign reading “Will You Marry Me?” sat at the forefront of the entire flower arrangement. 

Patrick later revealed in a radio show that proposing to Brittany was more nerve-wracking than winning the Super Bowl. 

You don’t think it’s going to be nerve-racking when you’ve been with someone for so long, but before you get on that knee, man, your heart’s racing. I promise you that. 

Patrick Mahomes on KCSP 610 Sports Radio 

He also admitted that his teammates had helped him out with the proposal. Afterward, Patrick and Brittany shared a lovely candlelit dinner, the photo of which Brittany captioned as “My heart is so full! I love this man so incredibly much, and today was so so special!”

They’re expecting a baby girl soon, but Brittany “freaked out” about the pregnancy at first

Patrick Mahomes and Brittany Matthews (credit: Brittany Matthews Instagram)

Less than a month after proposing, Brittany and Patrick announced that they’re taking a “detour” to the aisle and are expecting a baby. Brittany went on an Instagram Q&A to share details about the pregnancy and how they found out. She said that they weren’t actively trying for a pregnancy, so she took two tests after realizing she was late on her period. When the tests turned up positive, Brittany said she freaked out and started panicking. 

I started crying and freaking out. [Patrick] was just so sweet and supportive and just so excited about it […] Yes, I was terrified, and no, I did not expect it at this point in my life but everything happens for a reason. Ultimately, this is one of the biggest blessings we will ever have. 

Brittany Matthews on Instagram Live

Patrick himself has said that he’s “excited” to be a father and to be experiencing both fatherhood and football superstardom at the same time in his life. He said he wants to continue growing and being a better person for his family. 

I think it’s just about growing up, about having the responsibility and evolving as a family. I think we’ve done that — me and Brittany, and the people around me — and I’m just excited for the future ahead of being able to keep building and keep becoming a better person for my family and this world.

Patrick Mahomes on 610 Sports Radio’s The Drive

Sometimes the long distances are well worth your time

Patrick and Brittany never lost their love for each other despite going off in different directions after high school. They knew that if their love were true and resilient, it would survive the long distances and the extensive time apart. Brittany was there for Patrick before he made it big; she’s seen through it all. 

The media portrays her as the overenthusiastic girlfriend who’s always screaming at games and cheering on her man, who’s always posting her opinions and commentary on Twitter, who’s willing to defend her fiancé at any given moment, but she’s steadfast in her support and love. And he undoubtedly shares her same enthusiasm for her own passions. Patrick Mahomes may be winning games on the field, but he’s also won at home. 

Sometimes it’s worth it to go through the longing, the pain, the loneliness of a long-distance relationship if it means there’s a brighter future to look forward to. Perhaps the future isn’t guaranteed, but you might be surprised how much absence makes the heart grow fonder.

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In The Midst Of Divorce Allegations, Kim K Surprises The Real People Behind Her Success With $10K Gift

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Keeping Up With The Kardashians has been part the fabric of pop culture for years. Now, as it finally wraps up, Kim Kardashian West and her family are showing that they owe a lot of their success to their crew by gifting them Rolex watches as the show wrapped.

These watches, which go for around $10,000 each,  were gifted to each of the 30 crew members, according to TMZ.

The end of an era

“Officially sobbing. Grateful for every single second,” shared Kardashian in a behind-the-scenes video on Instagram, saying it felt “crazy” that this epic show was ending.

The video continued:

“We just finished filming forever, like ever, ever. We’re done, we’re never filming again – isn’t that so crazy?! So we’re having a drink with the crew in my backyard, hanging out. Cheers to – I don’t know. 15 years; 20 seasons of craziness and lots of love.”

The end of the series was celebrated in a socially distanced way due to the COVID pandemic, at an outdoor garden party for the cast and crew. Of course, the champagne was still flowing.

This milestone comes in the midst of brewing divorce rumors about Kardashian and her husband Kanye West, who have reportedly been living apart for months.

Appreciate those around you

The Kardashian family has faced a lot of criticism over the years, but they have a reputation for being generous and professional, even during times of personal hardship and public scrutiny.

The family understands that success and fame are fleeting. Their longevity is due to the support of hundreds of cast, crew and supporting team members, and the family always makes sure those people feel appreciated.

After being with E! for 20 seasons, the Kardashians are moving over to Hulu  – so who knows what to expect next.

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Why Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke Are Hollywood’s Most Down-to-Earth Couple

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Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke have been dating for eight years and although they don’t shy away from praising one another publicly, they don’t often make headlines with their relationship — and that’s exactly how they like it. 

Darke, a Michigan native who you may recognize from the big screen (think Oscar-nominated Still Alice) or small screen (think The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel), told Vulture in 2020 she’s “okay with [the media’s] lack of interest in us. We’re boring to them,” she proclaimed, pointing out that “90% of the paparazzi photos of us are getting coffee […] or going to the grocery store.” She joked, “You can only sell so many photos of two people waiting for an Uber!” 

It’s this normalcy that makes Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke’s union so refreshing. As is their unshakeable friendship and their ability to find joy in the most mundane tasks, as long as they’re doing them together. 

Here’s what we can learn from Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke’s sweet romance:

Work brought Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke together 

Mixing personal with professional can often spell disaster, but in the case of Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke, it was work that brought them together. And it’s work that provided them with a shared foundation that’s resulted in relationship success. 

The two actors met on the set of 2013’s Kill Your Darlings and, as the Harry Potter alum told Playboy in 2015, he was pretty much drawn to Darke instantly. In the film, their characters flirt and engage in a NSFW scene in a library and, as he told the outlet, “There’s no acting going on — not from my end, anyway. There’s a moment when she makes me laugh, and I’m laughing as me and not as my character,” he revealed.

She was incredibly funny and smart. I knew I was in trouble.

Daniel Radcliffe

Radcliffe spoke more about the movie that introduced him to the love of his life with PeopleTV in 2019, saying, “Our characters are meeting and flirting with each other, so there is this kind of sweet record of us just meeting for the first time and flirting.” He also joked that “it’ll be a hell of a story to tell our kids one day because of what our characters do with each other.”  

But acting didn’t just bring them together, it also offered them a strong base on which to build their relationship. “One of the first things we bonded over was how much we really love what we do and there’s something that’s really beautiful and really lovely about being with someone who just innately understands that about you,” Darke told People in 2018.

And even though they haven’t worked together since, they still continue to collaborate — just in a slightly different way. “He helps me make self-tapes sometimes,” she continued, adding, “He’s a great reader, by the way. We’re both incredibly supportive of the other person’s career.”

Labeling relationships early on can be detrimental  

Daniel Radcliffe doesn’t believe in labeling relationships or sorting them into different boxes. Rather, he prefers to remain open to possibilities when it comes to meaningful connections, which is a good thing because his romance with Darke grew out of friendship. 

“I don’t think you can ever control how anything starts,” he told Us Weekly, explaining that “the whole modern idea of ‘friend zone’ and all that stuff — that’s a word I don’t like very much.” Noting that you should never close yourself off by holding onto a preconceived notion of what someone means to you.

It’s not like I seek out that way of meeting people or think I have to be their friend first, but I think it’s often a very natural thing to progress from into a relationship.

Daniel Radcliffe

These days, after eight years together, Radcliffe and Darke’s friendship is as strong as ever. “I think that’s the kind of relationship I always aspire to have with someone I’m in a relationship with — you want that person to be your best friend,” Radcliffe told the magazine, confirming, “In the case of Erin, we definitely are.”  

They’re not afraid to be themselves 

When you find the right partner, not only will they be your biggest supporter and closest friend, but they’ll also embrace all sides of your personality. For Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke that meant geeking out together and loving it.  

“I grew up doing lots of things where I thought, ‘This is super nerdy. I’ll never be able to do this around a girl,’” Radcliffe admitted during a 2020 interview. Then he met Darke and she got it. As he explained:

That’s the wonderful thing about the moment you find the relationship you’re meant to be in. It’s like, ‘Oh, I can do all of that stuff and you don’t mind. And you actually think it’s fun, too. This is fantastic!’

Daniel Radcliffe

Adding that his girlfriend “comes from a big family of card players,” Radcliffe revealed that Darke also had plenty of nerdy traditions to share with him. “She’s introduced me to a lot of card games. We play a lot of board games, too. I feel lucky I’ve found somebody I can turn to and say, ‘Do you want to play Scrabble?’ And for her to say, ‘Sure.’ It’s super nerdy,” he said. 

Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke are happiest when they’re together 

Actors are often on the go and, as Radcliffe told the Radio Times, “There’s always an element of long distance with two actors in a relationship,” which is why he’s “very grateful for Skype and FaceTime.”

It’s no wonder then that when he and Darke are in the same place, they spend as much time together as possible. Offering a glimpse into their daily life, he shared, “We play a lot of games […] we watch a lot of TV. We go and see movies. We hang out and eat. We read.” 

While the pandemic wreaked havoc on a number of celebrity couples, it only brought them closer together. Deciding to quarantine in New York in Radcliffe’s apartment, the actor told Vulture they “have a little Post-It on the wall that we’re keeping a tally on. There was something about it that just made me laugh, immediately treating it like a prison film,” he joked, adding, “We’re both in the situation where we’ve never been more grateful not to have a kid, or more annoyed that we don’t have a dog. But generally speaking, compared to a lot of people, we are very, very much okay.”

And that’s because they genuinely are happiest when they’re together. As Radcliffe told People in 2019, Darke makes everything better, including the most boring of tasks. “A day on my own with nothing to do is kind of like, I’ll go crazy by the end of that day,” he said. “But doing the most mundane stuff, like going shopping, with her, it’s just a joy. It’s fun. I never thought I would find going to the supermarket a genuinely fun experience,” he laughed, adding that you know you’ve found The One when you realize that “if they weren’t there, you could be doing the exact same thing and it would suck, but them being there just makes it awesome.” 

There’s a lot to be said for how a person makes you feel and the right partner will always make you feel at ease. Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke show us how a winning union allows both parties to be 100% themselves and how finding someone who brightens up all aspects of your day (even grocery shopping) is the ultimate sign of relationship success. 

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The Truth Behind Janet Jackson’s Pregnancy At The Age of 50

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Though Janet Jackson isn’t a hot topic of discussion these days, no one can deny that she’s one of the most famous pop singers of all time. People forget that she’s still a thriving artist who’s continuing to release singles, produce albums, and perform for her fans whenever she has the chance. Instead of cherishing her artistry and dynamic stage presence, the media and the public continue to put her through the wringer. 

Janet’s public reputation is mostly dominated by her controversial performance at the Superbowl 2004 half-time show — an incident that spoke to the double standards prevalent in society and the entertainment industry. Yet the singer also grabbed headlines in 2017 when it was announced that she’d become a mother to her son Eissa. 

Celebrities having babies is hardly a newsworthy item, but Janet’s age made her pregnancy a subject of intense discussion and speculation. Instead of celebrating a woman’s journey through pregnancy and motherhood, the media chose to sensationalize the story, which, in turn, had adverse effects of its own. 

This is why it’s crucial to examine Janet Jackson’s evolution over the last few years and take notes on how the media portrayed a massive chapter in her life. 

Janet thinks it was a “gift” to give birth at age 50

Janet did what many think it’s impossible — conceive at nearly fifty years old. At the time, she was married to businessman Wissam Al Mana and, by all public accounts, was able to get pregnant naturally. She never divulged to the media whether she had been on any kind of fertility treatment but as far as one can tell, the pregnancy was smooth. Janet’s representatives also confirmed shortly after Eissa’s birth that the delivery was “stress-free.” 

Though the whole situation was as simple as it could, it didn’t stop the tabloids from jumping into conclusions and cooking up crazy theories about her pregnancy. But Janet herself has never concerned herself with revealing the truth or dismissing the information. To her, it’s God’s greatest gift that she was able to get pregnant at such an age. 

When asked about when she feels the most beautiful, Janet said:

I feel most beautiful when I’m with my son, because of the gift that God has given me and that he allowed me to do so at that age.

Janet Jackson to InStyle

Janet also credited her trainer for helping her body adapt to a pregnancy at her age. Janet is someone who achieved fame as a teenager, and therefore had to spend the majority of her life in the public eye. It’s not a surprise that she got caught up in body image issues and began to feel self-conscious about most of her features. But welcoming a baby into the world reiterated what truly mattered and that she couldn’t afford to waste even a second on these trivial details. 

Shortly after Eissa’s birth, Janet separated from her husband. Being a working single mother meant that she had to find time for her child no matter what. Janet said the hectic showbiz life can become overwhelming for any artist but being able to hold her son at the end of the day makes everything just a little better. She added:

love is limitless […] day after day and night after night, holding my baby in my arms, i am at peace. i am blessed. i feel bliss. in those moments, all is right with the world.

Janet Jackson to Billboard

Yet the media made a mess of the whole pregnancy

Janet’s pregnancy may have brought a world of joy into her life but the media’s approach to covering this news story has been riddled with missteps. From the onset, they’ve been treating the pregnancy as some sort of a massive mystery that needs to be dissected to no end. Articles were written about the various scenarios that could’ve been made the pregnancy possible. Doctors were called, fertility experts weighed in, and women were told that anything was possible as long as they believed. 

The problem with such immense and fruitless speculation is that, ultimately, that’s all it is. Speculation doesn’t lead to any concrete evidence or answers. Janet herself has chosen not to share how she was able to get pregnant at 49, and she’s entitled to maintaining her privacy. Given that the media didn’t have any hard proof over how this pregnancy took place, they should’ve dropped it and let Janet be. 

Instead, they pushed hard at the story, coming up with theories, drawing up hypotheticals, and offering false hope to other women desperately hoping to get pregnant. Women struggling with fertility would read the story and begin to wonder a range of things. Starting from “Is there something wrong with my body that Janet could get pregnant and I couldn’t?” to “It’s going to happen to me as well.” 

The first thought reflects shame, something that exacerbates the stigma around older moms, whereas the second feeling of confidence might be setting you up for failure. Both shame and confidence can have a negative affect here, so it’s key to offer no certainties when covering such sensitive stories. 

At the end of the day, it’s about having realistic expectations when looking at celebrities. Janet very well may have frozen her eggs or gone through IVF but it’s not for the public or the media to speculate. If she’s not choosing to share it, then there must be a reason behind that.  We can’t dictate our own lives based on what celebrities may or may not have done. 

Be practical about life’s biggest decisions

Janet’s lucky enough to be experiencing young motherhood in her fifties; most women are not going to be as fortunate as her. Some might strike lightning but many are going to fail and will have to look through alternative options. Such is this thing we call life. 

But what’s important to remember is that we cannot sensationalize celebrities and their life stories. We can try to emulate their courage, their determination, and passion, but when it comes to life’s biggest decisions, you’re going to have to be cautious and practical. Just because something’s worked for someone else doesn’t mean it’s going to work for you, and vice versa: just because something hasn’t worked for someone else doesn’t mean it’s not going work for you. You’re your own person, and your most significant moments cannot be boiled down to a tabloid article. So the next time you hear opinions about Janet’s pregnancy, just be happy for the woman and carry on. 

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How Shawn Mendes and Camilla Cabello Went From Friends To Lovers

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Not all love stories are instant and Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendes know that first-hand. The pair worked together and were friends for years before the timing was finally right and they found the courage to voice their true feelings. Speaking with VMAN in November 2020, Mendes confirmed that they’ve “known each other for, like, six or seven” years but have only been together for “a year and a half.”

Theirs wasn’t a straight path to love, but their connection could not be stopped. Mendes has called Cabello “my favorite person in the whole world” and shared how, even before they were dating, “She was always there to look out for me as a human being.” Meanwhile, Cabello told Elle, “I love him. We have always connected; we have the best time together.” And it’s that strong bond that has since helped them overcome fear and all of the “messy” realities of dating.

Here’s what we can learn from Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendes’ slow-burning love: 

Rumors that Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendes were dating began making headlines in June 2019. The “Havana” singer had just broken up with her boyfriend of over a year, Matthew Hussey, and she and Mendes released the chemistry-filled “Señorita.” While they both denied the rumors at first, the young couple has since spoken publicly about their slow-burning love. 

As Mendes explained in his 2020 Netflix documentary, In Wonder, he first met Cabello when they were both opening for Austin Mahone on his 2014 tour. “My very first tour ever and she was the act after me,” he recalled. “I was the first in the lineup with the shortest set and [Fifth Harmony] went on. Five years ago, man,” he reminisced.  

Nothing really happened, however, as Mendes had his eye on a different priority: his career. “He was so super hyper-focused on what he was doing,” Cabello revealed, adding, “I never saw him that whole tour. I thought he was cute, but I was like, he’s doing other stuff, so whatever.”

Meaningful connections can weave in and out of your life 

Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendes would meet again in 2015. This time, they were “backstage at one of Taylor’s 1989 shows” when the “My Oh My” singer “went to his dressing room to say ‘hi.’ And we, like, started writing this song,” she revealed. The track in question was “I Know What You Did Last Summer” and after they finished writing it, they “spent a lot of time with each other because we had the song together and we did a whole Jingle Ball tour together. And that’s really when the f****** saga started,” she joked, admitting:

I really liked him. I guess he liked me, but I don’t really know.

Recalling their time together working on “I Know What You Did Last Summer” and the influence it had on their relationship, Cabello told Rolling Stone it was the collab that pushed their feelings past friendship. “I really bonded with him as more than a friend,” she told the mag. However, the timing just wasn’t right.

“I think he did, too, but we were both really young, and he was experiencing the pressures of his career,” she explained, continuing, “I don’t think we knew what to do with those feelings. It was this awkward thing where we both liked each other, but we weren’t together. It was just weird,” she admitted.

Then they parted ways a second time. “An energy was there from the beginning, but after that song, we didn’t spend as much time together,” she told Rolling Stone. It wasn’t until their third reunion that the timing was finally right.

When Cabello and Mendes got together to work on 2018’s smash hit single “Señorita,” their true feelings could finally shine. “There was a period where we didn’t hang out as much just because we were both busy, and this song was really fun because we got to just hang out again like we did on the song we did before, ‘I Know What You Did Last Summer,’” Cabello shared in October 2019. As she discovered, the feelings she had back in 2015 were still there — “We started hanging out again and writing […] it just brought it back,” she said — but they still had one obstacle to overcome.

Turning friendship into romance can be scary

The timing may finally have been right, but the two young pop stars still had a major hurdle in front of them. As Cabello told The Sun in 2019, deciding whether or not to turn their friendship into something more was difficult. “When you first start dating a person and you know nothing about them, there’s less at risk there,” she explained, adding, “I think when you fall in love with somebody you’ve known for a long time, there’s more at stake.” 

At the same time, all relationships require a certain amount of faith and risk-taking and Cabello soon found the upside in their predicament. “It also feels more special because it feels like the love story you see in the movies of people who have known each other for a long time but been too stupid to realize it or say it and then it happens — and that’s beautiful too,” she told the outlet.

Communication — and vulnerability — are key 

Once the pair decided to give dating a try, their ability to keep their true feelings under wraps (which they had done for years) nearly derailed their budding romance. More specifically, it was Mendes’ fear of opening up and being vulnerable in front of his new girlfriend that could have ruined everything.  

I have always considered myself a really vulnerable guy […] until I had a girlfriend who I was so serious about, then I realized how much I was scared of being the weak man.

Shawn Mendes to Zane Lowe during a 2020 Apple Music interview.

Revealing that he “went through a month where I couldn’t really even communicate with her because I was struggling with anxiety and I didn’t want her to see me weak,” the “In My Blood” singer confessed, “I was on the verge of ruining our relationship.” 

That’s when he learned an important lesson about love: Honesty is the key to any successful relationship. “When you come out on the other end and you’re like, ‘Listen, I’m struggling here, it’s hard for me to even say this to you.’ And everything starts building and growing and getting stronger and the roots fortify, and you look around and you’re like, ‘Oh s***.’ Bravery. That’s bravery,” he proclaimed. “That’s strength.”

True love should be inspiring

As Mendes revealed in his documentary, every song he’s ever written has been inspired by Cabello — “She literally had no idea. This whole time I thought she knew,” he said — and she too has drawn from their relationship in the studio. “I fell in love and just opened up,” she told Variety about writing songs inspired by love for her second album, Romance. Sitting down with Elle, she added, “Honestly, this past year and a half was the first time I really experienced falling in love with another person […] You have so much more to say.”  

But their positive impact on one another goes far beyond their music. As Mendes told British GQ in 2020, his girlfriend has helped him overcome his struggle with body image. “Some days I would have three hours of sleep [because] I’d get up two hours early just to be able to work out,” he said, admitting he believed that “if you don’t work out, you’re going to lose fans.” Meditation and journaling helped, but so did watching Cabello and the way she dealt with public scrutiny. “So strong, so clear and confident with her [body] and so articulate and empathetic about other people’s and it really changed my view of mine,” he told the mag. “It really changed my life.” 

She also showed him the importance of family. As Mendes told VMAN in 2020, “I think for seven years, I was on such a speedy path down one way with blinders on, and I wasn’t keeping in touch with my family and friends. But when I landed with Camila, immediately she had her family around more […] and it really made me like, ‘Oh, I should call my mom,” he confessed. “I started reaching back out to my family and friends and all of these connections I felt were further away,” he said.

I felt a little bit alone out there and she changed that for me.

As for Cabello, she told fans she’s “learned a lot about love with this guy,” like the fact that relationships require work but it’s worth it with the right person. “It’s not just the happy blissful moments you see in pictures and videos,” she wrote on Instagram. “When you’re in a relationship with someone, it feels like they are this mirror reflecting yourself back to you. I constantly have to confront my fears, my anxieties, my insecurities, my patterns of thinking, my beliefs about life and about myself,” she explained, telling her followers that “It’s not as simple as it looks in pictures sometimes. Sometimes, it’s messy and uncomfortable and ugly.” 

“To be in love means to choose that person over and over again, to go through the messy stuff with,” she professed and she’s right. Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendes may be young, but their relationship has already taught them a number of invaluable lessons, like the need to take risks, the importance of communication and vulnerability, and the simple fact that you need to be prepared to take the good with the bad. No relationship is perfect, but when your connection is genuine and long-lasting like theirs, it’s all worth it in the end.

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